tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-60773112011-04-21T16:04:13.503-07:00Frum Dating TheoryHaving experienced many failed relationships, I feel fully qualified to provide critical analysis of the frum dating world, both shidduch and otherwise. The rules of grammar and spelling do not apply to this blog, and my posts will reflect this.
Moreover, what I post on this site is not merely my opinion, but cold-hard-fact. If you find yourself disagreeing with anything I write, it is most likely because you are intellectually inferior, and therefore, do not understand it. Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comBlogger681100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1080579888159635042005-02-23T08:21:00.000-08:002006-08-03T09:31:46.040-07:00Tip for guys on raising their social statusNo matter how hard one tries, a guy can never become "cooler" or more socially desirable in the eyes of women. Contrary to popular films, simply putting trendy clothing on the otherwise mediocre nerd will not make him the homecoming king. The only thing a guy can hope for is a change in his surroundings.In the frum dating community, this happens automatically as a guy gets older. The older a guy Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1084394161677634332005-02-21T13:32:00.000-08:002005-03-02T12:10:52.396-08:00Chananya Weismann, of endthemadness fame, wrote and article for jewish press detailing the difficulties he has getting a date:. . .Of course, if Rava really wished to flummox his colleague, he couldhave asked a much simpler question: What`s your hashkafa?We can only speculate as to the witty retort this would haveengendered in Talmudic times. Nowadays, however, this question is askedwith the Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1080807916448259032005-01-01T00:19:00.000-08:002005-03-02T12:21:26.253-08:00Guys: When introducing your girlfriend/fiance to a friend, do not ask your friend if he thinks the girl is attractive. If the friend thought your girlfriend was pretty, he would have informed you of this.Yes, im sure you truely believe that your wench of a girlfriend is, in fact, very pretty, but odds are, she isnt. Asking your friend to confirm your distorted perception of reality is rather Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1092074171487359082004-08-09T10:48:00.000-07:002004-08-10T14:05:05.000-07:00Face or Body?A very common question that readers ask me is- which is more important a girls face or her body?
The most common answer I receive for this question is "mike, you can always have both, so why would you even bother asking such an irrelevant question?" While this is true, I raise the question as a hypothetical, for I feel it may be helpful to those who are unfortunate enough to be faced with such aMikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1077755460679729792004-06-17T16:06:00.000-07:002004-06-16T23:09:35.040-07:00Paying for DatesIt has always perplexed me why a girl would insist on paying for her share of the date in a situation where the man is more than willing to pay.
Kinda reminds me of my college days, when I once witnessed a student inform her professor that her exam score was miscalculated, and should, in fact, be lower. I guess sometimes people do retarded things.
Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1103714170648232042004-06-13T03:12:00.000-07:002005-03-02T12:09:49.106-08:00In re chakiraSomeone sent me a link to the chakira post about BTLs and professional life/ law school. The post was so factually inaccurate and self serving that I felt compelled to provide a detailed response. It is long, but it will finally put to rest any doubts concerning YUs failures (btw, im not a BTL).Chakira- claiming that YU students are better equipped to handle the academic and outside world is likeMikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1086978549259617612004-06-11T11:28:00.000-07:002004-06-14T07:21:06.046-07:00Hot or Not?How girls can determine it they are really hot:
1) Do you get asked out by random guys several times a week (doesnt count if they are construction workers)?
2) When you are at a party or social gathering (i.e. wedding) are there always guys coming up to you trying to make conversation with, or do you find yourself searching for people to talk to?
If you answered yes to question 1, and/or partMikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1078736520510501192004-06-10T00:34:00.000-07:002006-08-03T09:41:33.893-07:00Yeshivas in Israel(re-ordered post)More on Israeli yeshivas:I will sort Israeli yeshiva programs into two categories: programs I like, and programs I dislike. My ranking methodology will not be made public, and all results are final.Programs I dislike:1) Tiferet Yerushalayim (TJ)- Inferior in every respect. I would worry that writing this may offend people who went to TJ, but I highly doubt their literacy.2)Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1078301103960277192004-05-22T23:53:00.000-07:002004-05-30T23:23:21.486-07:00Looks or Money???Answer to previous poll for guys (would you rather have a hot girl or a rich girl?):
The answer, as most of you have correctly pointed out, is HOT. To illustrate, take for example a very wealthy man in his 50s, who has been married to his wife for over 30 years (no prenupt. he was young and wasnt wealthy at the time) who decides that he does not find his wife attractive anymore, and knows that Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1084957636857572572004-05-19T01:59:00.000-07:002004-05-19T02:07:16.856-07:00Many readers, desperately in need of dating advice, have emailed me requesting that i provide an easy and convenient way for them to find all my previous posts in which i share my valuable dating advice.
I have set up another page (www.datingadvice.blogspot.com) and begun to post my previous dating tips onto that page. I have already posted several of my previous tips, and i will continue Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1084879257668811142004-05-18T03:56:00.000-07:002004-05-18T04:20:57.666-07:00The other day I received an email asking me why i havent answered any dating question posed on Hashkafa.com in a while. So today i checked out the site and found a discussion on wild/weird dating stories. Some of the stories are quite risqué and over the top
An example of one such story:
One of my friends went out with a guy who was a cousin of a guy whom she had dated previously. When he Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1084781786900015762004-05-17T00:52:00.000-07:002004-05-17T10:55:56.990-07:00As posted below, Mrs. Einhorn and Mrs. Zimmerman are two social workers who give general dating for frumster users. In their advice article, they include the "biggest dating myths."
myth #4:
If you don't have physical intimacy before marriage, you won't know if you are sexually compatible and can be married to each other.
If any frumster readers are questioning how these two women are Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1084352189064368402004-05-12T01:52:00.000-07:002004-05-12T01:56:29.063-07:00Reader posts comment:
Its blogs like this that prevent the coming of the Messiah
I wasnt aware that solving the shidduch crisis was holding up the messiah.Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1084268296163204362004-05-11T02:20:00.000-07:002004-05-12T02:49:11.346-07:00A YU student wrote a long comment a few posts ago, where i pointed out that of 80 YU students applying to law school last year, only 1 got into a top 5 law school (as opposed to touro which sent 3 out of around 20). I will address some of his points:
Where were the other students accepted? YU's overall results could be much more impressive. And what is the overall percentage of Touro students Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1084266780294072852004-05-11T02:02:00.000-07:002004-05-11T02:13:00.293-07:00Some folks at YU trying to compete with me have stolen my idea.
There is a new website coming called YUMatch.com. Included among the features is "rate a match." This sounds quite similar to my survey that I have been sending out, asking people to rate their dates (see a few posts down).
The difference with their service is that it only includes dating within the YU community. But then Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1084177375456503482004-05-10T00:58:00.000-07:002004-05-10T01:22:55.456-07:00Received this email (the sender was most probably a frustrated cardozo law student):
I want to know why people are generally so much more impressed when they hear someone goes to Einstein than when they hear someone goes to cardozo, and why Einstein students are considered to be more intelligent? To see that cardoza students are just as smart, if not smarter than Einstein students, just Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1083653431501643362004-05-03T23:41:00.000-07:002004-05-04T14:13:45.170-07:00Several individuals have emailed (or commented) me informing me of their concerns regarding my survey (see post below). One such comment reads:
Better make sure the comments on this survey don't name names or identifying details, otherwise you threaten to cross the lashon hara line...
Another email i received asks "But what if a girl gets a low score, if enough people see it, this can ruin Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1083582722963243642004-05-03T04:11:00.000-07:002004-05-03T04:16:18.560-07:00Here is what you all have been waiting for: Solving the shidduch problem once and for all.
It is quite understandable why so many readers have eagerly awaited my solution to this vexing problem. Indeed, the problem is so great that some people have created entire organization just to try and get a date. One such organization is endthemadness. But alas, all attempts at solving the problem Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1083314340278438082004-04-30T00:57:00.000-07:002004-04-30T02:02:53.686-07:00More frumster news:
A few weeks ago i commented on the frumster advice column "Ask Batya" which allows members to send questions to Batya- a social worker who has been married for over 30 years and whose hobbies include drinking tea and resting.
Well, it seems frumster feels that this isnt enough to compete with my site, and has yet another "general dating advice" column given by Sherry S. Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1083306251106255172004-04-29T23:03:00.000-07:002004-04-29T23:41:07.686-07:00Reader sends in a long email:
A problem exists within the frum community that must be addressed. There are people out there who lie about their professional and academic credentials, leading all their friends and family to believe they are more impressive and accomplished than they truly are. The worst part about this is that these type of people hog, not only the spotlight of those who truly Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1082966306553431382004-04-26T00:46:00.000-07:002004-04-26T13:18:35.390-07:00Greetings, loyal readers. I have returned.
I have recently learned that frumster has begun to charge a fee for its use. According to frumster's new payment policy, while a person will have to pay in order to send messages, non paying members can still receive messages free of charge.
In other words, as long as youre a hot chick, frumster is free. But then again, if youre a hot chick, youre Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1081923191137114442004-04-13T23:11:00.000-07:002004-04-13T23:17:07.170-07:00I hope you all had an enjoyable holiday. I will post again shortly.Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1081410755639382382004-04-08T00:25:00.000-07:002004-04-08T00:56:22.936-07:00In an attempt to directly compete with this website, Frumster has recently started an advice section - "Ask Batya."
Batyas credentials are as follows:
"An MSW (Master of Social Work) with many years of clinical experience in individual, and marital treatment both in the U.S. and Israel, Mrs. Ben-Ze'ev grew up in a Reform family, but became Orthodox almost 30 years ago, while living in Atlanta,Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1080682505050896222004-03-30T13:25:00.000-08:002004-03-30T13:38:41.000-08:00To be honest, there is no real way for a girl to improve her social standing on the dating market. Of course she can do the obvious and dress well, pretty herself up, stay thin, and if not thin; diet (or get that surgery). Remember, some of the hottest movie starts have eating disorders. its is nothing to be ashamed of. Winning the lottery would help as well.
Some girls believe that putting Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1080662296981812582004-03-30T07:54:00.000-08:002004-03-30T08:01:52.293-08:00Since yesterday, I have received several emails from girls (im assuming) asking what a girl can do to raise their social status. I will get to this shortly, unitl then just put the candy bar down.Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1080319739947568302004-03-26T08:40:00.000-08:002004-03-26T08:52:29.950-08:00Reader sends in question:
"Mike, do you think its a good idea to go out with 2 girls at once?"
There is nothing wrong with going out with several girls at a time for as you can handle it (i.e. not getting caught). I, in fact, once juggled 4 girls at a time.
In order to ensure that youre not wasting too much money on these girls, make sure you choose your date locations and activities wiselyMikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1080296334509402552004-03-26T01:20:00.000-08:002004-03-26T08:32:41.106-08:00Several readers have emailed me, informing me of the specific reasons why they were banned from frumster, and asking me to comment on it.
Frumsters "banning" policies:
If you ever browse through the profiles on frumster, you will find that almost all the profiles sound the same. "I am a spiritual person...looking for someone to grow with...needs to have a good sense of humor but also know Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1080224482246599622004-03-25T06:17:00.000-08:002004-03-25T06:24:51.200-08:00Many readers have sent me emails asking me to address frumsters policy on banning people. Readers tell me they have been banned for the slightest use of sarcasm, well, that and explicit sexual references. I will discuss it shortly.Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1080224147292940592004-03-25T06:14:00.000-08:002004-03-25T06:19:16.296-08:00My last few posts are missing. How do i get them back? Any nerds out there? Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1079604539315748422004-03-18T01:32:00.000-08:002004-03-18T02:16:50.530-08:00A reader sent the following email:
Dear Mike,
I am an avid fan of your site. I had an interesting experience that I would
like to run by you for your professional opinion. I went on a first date
with a girl who rated a 21 (out of 30) on my Marriagability Scale (Money -
8, Looks - 5, Personality - 8). The date went well, and according to the
shadchan this girl had a nice time and wanted to go Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1079543443649128472004-03-17T09:01:00.000-08:002004-03-17T09:14:01.860-08:00Look where our friend Chakira has been hanging out.
The following was posted on protocols last week:
The new homosexual fetish for...Chasidic men.
gentile for orthodox - m4m - 29
masculine, discrete, bi- whiteboy, looking to explore with orthodox (pref. hassidic) Jew. I've seen lots around the neighborhood, been with few men, but am very turned on by the orthodox...perhaps this is a fantasy Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1079469198507881022004-03-16T12:22:00.000-08:002004-03-16T12:40:05.496-08:00Trump agrees with Mike
A few weeks ago I posted on the topic of overrated schools. Here is an excerpt:
Other common misconceptions . . . Coming soon:
2) Yale and NYU have a good business schools.
3) Penn has a good law school
4) SUNY Binghamton is a good college
Well, the other day, Trump wrote this piece for the WSJ responding to a critic of his:
The Wall Street Journal 10 March 2004Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1079432879671038722004-03-16T02:22:00.000-08:002004-03-16T02:49:29.233-08:00How to ruin your shidduch reputation:
"Marcus Wesson, who may have fathered two of the victims with his own daughters, was charged Saturday with nine counts of murder."
Will have a hard time getting set up on dates Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1079348132272429442004-03-15T02:23:00.000-08:002004-03-15T03:26:17.936-08:00Comments on the west side:
A few weeks ago, I discussed a serious problem in the Jewish dating world. The amazing accuracy, and practical importance of my earlier post is most evident when viewing singles on the west side. To make things easier for readers, I will repost the section from my earlier discussion:
Determining your value on the dating market:
Just because you had one relationshipMikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1079124338436073402004-03-12T12:42:00.000-08:002004-03-12T12:48:49.513-08:00I have been wanting to do a piece about the west side for some time but never got around to doing it.
I will be spending this shabbos by one of my heathen friends living in the west side. Full report to follow.Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1078999540037327462004-03-11T01:45:00.000-08:002004-03-11T02:08:49.686-08:00While watching "The Passion" the other night, there was a man in his thirties sitting 3 or 4 seats from me, who cried hysterically during the scourging scene. He was most probably a devout catholic, or just otherwise crazy.
Anyway, to drown out the sound of his whining, I started munching on my popcorn very loudly, until he turned to me and gave me a dirty look. It appeared as if he was aboutMikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1078950138370479782004-03-10T12:21:00.000-08:002004-03-10T12:25:27.060-08:00Saw The Passion last night.
Man, do I hate jews. Poor Jesus.Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1078824971515988472004-03-09T00:59:00.000-08:002004-03-09T01:40:05.090-08:00Some readers have pointed me to the hashkafa.com website. After reading through the site for a few minutes, I noticed that the questions raised never receive honest and accurate answers. Therefore, as a service to these individuals, and to the dating community in general, I will post the correct answers to many of these questions.
One poor soul asks:
I recently went out with a girl whom I Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1078478938242895322004-03-05T01:13:00.000-08:002004-03-05T01:31:59.326-08:00The other day I received an interesting email:
"Can you please start a thread about Yeshivot in Israel. Hakotel (Netiv
Aryeh) is obviously #1, but after that, it is not so clear."
Now, i have to be honest, Israeli yeshivaS are not my specialty, but I have encountered enough students from the various yeshivas for me to analyze the strengths and weaknesses of various yeshivas.
First off, no Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1078387385691411602004-03-04T00:00:00.000-08:002004-03-04T00:06:05.653-08:00New poll: Whats the most "interesting" place youve taken (for girls: been taken) a girl on a date?
Ill go first: Empty warehouse.Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1078345851065596752004-03-03T12:04:00.000-08:002004-03-03T12:35:25.060-08:00A friend of mine showed me an article from the YU Observer. It reads:
"Although long overshadowed by Einstein, Cardozo has actually been slowly gaining in reputation since its founding. When it was only 10 years old, Cardozo was acknowledged as the best of the new law schools, and it has risen in repute since then, said YC and SCW pre-law advisor Dean Michael Hecht. Though when it first opened Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1078263155915952522004-03-02T13:23:00.000-08:002004-03-02T13:35:33.483-08:00Reader sends in this question:
"Mike, how do you have time to juggle the responsibilities involved in your elite profession, your work in your top academic institutions, and your multiple super hot girlfriends? All this and you still have to run a website?"
These are all good questions. Follow my teachings closely and you will soon find for the answers. For now, I will say this much: A manMikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1078238059291536602004-03-02T06:23:00.000-08:002004-03-02T06:37:16.450-08:00Upon further review of the End the Madness website, I have found a page that features signatures of those who agree with the covenant. I highly doubt that a single person who singed it has actually read the covenant because if they did, they would see that the first one reads "It is fundamentally wrong to judge someone based on non-Halachic externalities." Because he doesnt go into any further Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1078214092189624692004-03-01T23:52:00.000-08:002004-03-01T23:57:48.686-08:00Poll for guys: If you had a choice, would you rather marry a girl who is super wealthy or super hot?
The correct answer coming soon.Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1078132880224585322004-03-01T00:32:00.000-08:002004-03-01T01:24:15.890-08:00I receive many emails from readers asking me to comment on certain issues concerning Jewish dating, academia, and YU. One issue i receive many questions about is End the Madness. "mike, what is your opinion on "end the madness? Do you agree with their methods?" they ask. Allow me to answer.
Prior to receiving these emails, i had never heard of this organization. I assume endthemadness Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1078059301533437362004-02-29T04:49:00.000-08:002004-02-29T04:57:56.343-08:00When taking a girl on a first date, do NOT take the girl to a very fancy and expensive restaurant such as Le Marais and Prime Grill. You will come off as pathetic and desperate. Even if the girl is very impressed, it will only win you, at most, one extra date. No sense of prolonging your misery. If you had any confidence in yourself you would take the girl to J2 for the first date. Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1077876540979399272004-02-27T02:00:00.000-08:002004-02-27T02:11:52.716-08:00Some non-dating, yet worthwhile, advice:
If you decide to give money to a musician or performer in a subway station, and you find that you only have a 5 dollar bill on you, do NOT put the five in the collection box and remove four singles. Explaining to the drugged up musician that you actually first put in a five before you removed the four singles will do no good. This is especially true Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1077816925526457342004-02-26T09:18:00.000-08:002004-02-26T09:38:15.966-08:00First date advice:
Guys: Much like with the first phone call, try to keep the first date as short as possible. As much as many of you dont want to hear this, the girls' mind is made up (regarding the second date) the moment she opens the door to greet you. In cases where the guy has lots of money, the girls mind is made up before the first phone call. Of course, the guys mind is also made up Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1077698748679400572004-02-25T00:42:00.000-08:002004-02-25T00:48:37.280-08:00Some clarification: I am not giving advice on how to dress on dates, but rather, I am giving advice on how not to be gay.
Interpreting my post as advice on how to dress is in fact quite gay.Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1077658810403415722004-02-24T13:39:00.000-08:002004-02-24T13:42:58.420-08:00Wearing suits on dates: Pretty gay. Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1077564624397734872004-02-23T11:20:00.000-08:002004-02-23T23:43:11.590-08:00I found another dating blog!
Its called Unbroken Glass, and its worth a read. For those not familiar with it, unbroken glass is a blog which chronicles the shidduch dates of an angry, man-hating-lesbian, on her way to finally getting married. Hi-jinx ensue.
You should be warned, though. Unbroken Glass is purely for entertainment purposes, and as such, should not be mistaken for an advice Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1077488466935191372004-02-22T13:49:00.000-08:002004-02-23T23:39:21.576-08:00Internet Dating:
Quite often, people walk up to me in the street and ask, "Mike, do you think frumster is a good idea?" To which I reply, "the fact that you asked me this question is indicative that you do not have a date, so give frumster a try."
To be honest though, it is far more complicated than this. I have checked out frumster on many occasions, and while frumster seems to have worked Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1077231752275127752004-02-19T15:02:00.000-08:002004-02-19T15:05:13.873-08:00After reading my latest post, a concerned reader, who apparently has greater insight into the whole YU phenomena, sent me this email with his take on YU students. Although this post may have veered off my main topic of conversation, I have, nonetheless, decided to post this email, out of love for all things that are truthful and accurate.
"Mike-
Finally. I was hoping you would address this.
Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1077177369631885642004-02-18T23:53:00.000-08:002004-02-19T12:05:41.326-08:00Someone posted this description of YU students in the comment section of the Chakira blog:
"Its time these pasty-faced mother&%*$s with their Nextel phones, Haztalah walkie-talkies, daddy's (or YU's) charge card, hexagonal wire-rimmed spectacles, high-speed connections to only Simchas, nicely groomed sideburns, virginal 16 year old Stern girlfriends and Shloime Dachs CDs realized that they are Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1077133834722159532004-02-18T11:39:00.000-08:002004-02-18T11:53:14.936-08:00Breaking up (continued)
4) Another method of breaking up that should not be used is the kind where the guy feels too guilty to break up and is afraid he will hurt the girl, so instead of dumping her completely, he tells her that he needs a "break." Whatever the hell that means. Guys: You shouldn't be afraid of dumping girls. It would actually be a much easier breakup if you just do the whole Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1077176746695687322004-02-17T23:45:00.000-08:002004-02-18T23:48:26.826-08:00It seems many guys have problems breaking up with their girlfriends. Much of this stems from not having any balls. So before I lay out the proper methods to dump a girl, I will first discuss many common mistakes guys make when breaking up. This is by no means an exhaustive list.
1) A very popular way for guys to break up is just to be a complete coward and stop showing any interest in the girl, Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1077035622802020152004-02-17T08:30:00.000-08:002004-02-17T08:36:20.983-08:00Coming soon: Easy ways to pull off those difficult breakups (yes many of you need help with this).Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1077003276449464522004-02-16T23:32:00.000-08:002004-02-16T23:45:55.186-08:00More phone call advice
I have heard stories where guys call up girls, and during the course of the conversation, the guy will say something that will lead the girl to believe that the two are incompatible. When many guys hear this, they bid the girl farewell, and go on their merry way. This is a HUGE mistake. A girl who is turning guys down solely based on phone calls probably has lots of Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1076951169576674692004-02-16T08:54:00.000-08:002004-02-16T13:57:49.606-08:00Advice for first phone call:
No matter how well the call is going, or how "into" the girl you are, keep the call under half an hour. Preferably, 15-20 minutes.
In case past experience has taught you nothing, let me explain things to you. A great 1 hours conversation will mean nothing if the actual date goes poorly, or one party isnt attracted to the other. Likewise, if the date goes well, Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1076882432072256852004-02-15T13:50:00.000-08:002004-02-15T14:03:33.966-08:00Good question: Im sure many of you have been asked on occasion, "If you werent frum, on what number date would you have sex with the girl?" For most people, the answer would be on the third or fourth date. Im a nice guy, so i wouldnt impose sex until the 5th date.
If you are frum and ARE having sex with other frum girls, this question obviously doesnt apply to you, but i must say that i am Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1076695315692722682004-02-13T10:01:00.000-08:002004-02-13T12:05:55.793-08:00Worried about the potential danger involved in giving dating advice, several people have asked me if I am qualified to give such advice. The answer is, yes, I am qualified to give dating advice.Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1076691112034331302004-02-13T08:47:00.000-08:002004-02-13T08:54:24.310-08:00Lesson 2: Are there more single (frum) girls than guys?
No. Girls simply have more concerns than guys do, such as height, hairline, education, job, etc., thus eliminating most of the frum dating pool.Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1076531921389135032004-02-11T12:38:00.000-08:002004-02-11T12:41:11.466-08:00Comming soon: Lesson 2- Are there realy more girls out there than guys?Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1076531865870837572004-02-11T12:19:00.000-08:002004-02-11T12:40:15.950-08:00Part d (final part) of lesson 1: Determining your value on the dating market.
As previously stated, a big problem in the shidduch world today is guys not knowing their value on the dating market. When a man thinks he is more socially desirable than he actually is, it causes him to turn down many girls who are in the same league as him, with the hopes of getting a girl who is way out of his Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1076432454553374162004-02-10T08:55:00.000-08:002004-02-10T09:03:23.390-08:00Part C of lesson 1: Determining your value on the dating market.
Just because you had one relationship with a hot girl doesnt mean that any other "it" girl will go for you. I have seen some guys get over confident, and unrealistically raise their expectations simply because they dated one pretty girl. It is most likely that this girl had somekind of weird taste in guys, or was otherwise Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1076343829460422372004-02-09T08:09:00.000-08:002004-02-09T08:28:35.030-08:00Part B of Lesson 1: Determining your value on the dating market.
b) Many guys who arent exactly attractive, or are just otherwise low on the social scale will ask "but moshe is an ugly nerd, and he got a hot girl, so why shouldnt i be able to get a hot girl?" The answer to this is, or course, that moshe has some other factor that compensates for his lack of physical beauty. In most cases thisMikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1076268385062856722004-02-08T11:21:00.000-08:002004-02-08T11:30:45.216-08:00Lesson 1: Determining your value on the dating market.
a) Stop bitching about not being set up with pretty girls when you know good-and-well that you would never have the balls to ask these girls out yourself (there is probably a reason people are not setting you up with these girls). More on this comming soon.Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6077311.post-1068796092398321342004-02-02T23:46:00.000-08:002004-02-03T13:29:08.420-08:00Having experienced many failed relationships, I feel fully qualified to provide critical analysis of the frum dating world, both shidduch and otherwise. This blog will also be used as a forum for me to make fun of all the people I dislike, and perhaps even review of the new paris hilton video (great actress!!).
The rules of grammar and spelling do not apply to this blog, and my posts will Mikehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05900756770385909895noreply@blogger.com